Who pays for the spa trip for the bridal party?

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My sister is getting married and I am her Maid of Honor. I wanted to plan a spa day for the Bridal party on the day of her wedding. Just mani's and pedi's and some girl time. So who pays for that? Do I make everyone pay a little something or is it my responsibility to cover it?


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  1. Avis B says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    If you are "treating" the bridal party then YOU are paying for all the services and the gratuity. And you should make that clear to everyone that this is "your treat."

    And if you cannot afford to treat everyone then can you inform each member of the bridal party what the plans are (the time and date) and what the service fees are ($$$) and then let them decide if they want to join you. Ask for some type of Yes or No response from each person. I don’t think asking members of the bridal party to contribute is a good idea.

    I know of situations where bridal party members walked out of the hair salon because they assumed that the Mother of the Bride or the Bride were "treating" them to a manicure or pedicure or getting their hair done the morning of the wedding.

    Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

  2. Christian Gal says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    Have everyone pay for it except the bride.

  3. Liz says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    I’d ask, (but not force) everyone to chip in a little money. No set amount, but just as a donation. Manis and pedis are going to be expensive for you to pay by yourself, so I’d ask for a little help :) And the bride shouldn’t have to pay anything.

  4. *princess due may9th2010* says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    yeh i agree with oters, the bride does NOT pay lol
    im sure the rest of the bridal party wouldnt mind paying some

  5. Suz123 says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    Well, the maids are already buying dresses, maybe shoes, a wedding gift, a bridal shower gift, helping to host the bridal shower . . .

    I think it is really wrong to ask them to take on one more expense.

    I think if you want the spa day, you should pay for all.

    If that is too expensive, then you can turn it into a party at your home. You provide the munchies, maybe rent a movie, and everyone can give each other the manicures and the pedicures.

  6. Happy New Year! says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    I’d get together with the other bridesmaids and see if this is something they want to do. Just ask them about it. Keep in mind some may not be able to afford it, so if you really want to do this, you may end up paying yourself.

  7. Kirsten says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    as well as consulting the other bridesmaids, ask your sister if there will be time. on the day of my sisters wedding we barely had a spare second, after breakfast, makeup, hair and getting her dress on we were still a little late for her 3pm wedding. perhaps the day before would be better, that way you have time for the polish to dry as well.

  8. driven721 says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    It isn’t your responsibility to financially carry the wedding party, it is your responsibility to be the organized, punctual, supportive, emotional backbone for the bride – there to communicate with everyone and make sure everything looks like everything is running smoothly and everyone is happy (even is everyone isn’t at first!).

    I would suggest that you schedule the day and try to work your magic to get a group discount to save everyone money on their treatment. You can offer to cover everyone’s service tip (this will not only save the girls a few more dollars, but will also ensure that the technicians are taken care of). Then, to make the day more special without breaking the bank you can bring along a reasonably priced bottle of champagne and some strawberries or chocolate.

    Good luck and congratulations to your sister!

  9. soichu says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    Will there be time for a spa trip on the day of the wedding? When my sister got married, she treated her bridal party to a hair appointment at a salon as a gift. Between everyone’s hair getting done and my sister’s hair and makeup, there wasn’t all that much time before we had to be at the church.

    If everyone in the bridal party wants a spa day and everyone can chip in, maybe you could do it a couple days before the wedding. That’s when your sister will probably really be stressing.

  10. Soon to be bride says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    Talk to the bridesmaids. Explain your idea and ask them if they would mind contributing. But remember that this is your idea. So if they aren’t sure about putting money in, and you continue with the idea anyway, you may end up paying for it all on your own!

  11. Liz says:
    January 15, 2010 at 3:21 am

    Events are paid for by the hosts. If you want to invite people to a spa party, you pay. Making your invited guests pay is tacky beyond belief.

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