wedding – which would you prefer to go to?

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here are 2 ideas we have....



marrying with the justice of the peace, just the two of us. then having a "wedding party" food, swimming pool, spa, fishing, music, drinks...just a big gathering, party....
if you choose this...would you find it rude to still add on invitations about a registry/gifts?

or

a SMALL wedding ceremony on the beach (no more than 30 people, probably not even that large) and then the wedding party afterwards

we have been living together for 5 years, we have an 8 month old son, and we would like to buy a house soon. thats why we're not looking for anything to formal or extravagant...
what i mean is, would it still be considered rude to "expect" gifts from people if we didnt have a formal wedding ceremony, no one invited, just me, my guy, and the 2 witnesses? but we still had a big wedding party?

Comments

  1. Kris B says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    I vote for the justice of the peace, less expensive and you can put all the money you saved towards the after party, and IT IS NOT RUDE to include registry information in the invitation, nowadays every one has a registry!! It gives people a starting place to find your gifts!! We got married at the court house with our close family, then had dinner with everyone after wards, and we actually had lived together for 5 years before getting married to (interesting), we are hoping to have a pool party this summer to celebrate, do what feels right, don’t worry about what other people think it is your day and you guys should do it how you wan to!! Congratulations and I wish you many happy years to come !! :) ~

  2. janis616 says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    If the person getting married is a close friend or relative I would go to the wedding no matter what kind of party there was going to be. As for the registry info, you never put the registry info in the invitation, no matter what kind of wedding you’re having. Either let people know when they ask you what you want, let other people spread the word, or put it discreetly on your wedding webpage.

  3. Beckers says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    Wedding on the beach – definitely! Inexpensive, yet romantic. Justice of the peace doesn’t even come close.

  4. Joycee says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    You still want something special though..you have to take the time to enjoy the moment so go for the beach one.

    ALSO..have you looked up bed and breakfest weddings some have pools..You can have the whole wedding in one spot with a garden wedding..nice place to have a party

  5. Mary K says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    I don’t have an opinion for either, but NEVER mention your registry info on your invitations, or anything about gifts. If people want to know where you are registered they will call or email you, but it’s tacky to mention it on the invite.

  6. Butterfly says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    I would prefer to go the the 1st one. In fact both my niece and her father(he was never married to my sister) did this for their weddings and it was such a blast because it was relaxing and entertaining and it is not rude to expect gifts just because of the venue you chose.

  7. abc says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    either sounds fine and it is rude to expect gifts no matter what kind of wedding you have

  8. Cherlindra says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    The beach wedding gets my vote. If you are having a reception afterwards people are going to give you presents anyway you might as well get something you want. I had a couple that sent a small card with the invitation letting everyone know where they were registered. I loved it!! I didn’t have to call anyone or ask the couple what they wanted. I just went to store where they were registered and bought them something they asked for.

  9. maigen_obx says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    It is always rude to expect gifts from people. It is always rude to include registery information in invitations.

  10. Crazy Buzy Princess says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    I’d prefer the beach wedding & you should NEVER expect gifts

  11. Lydia says:
    September 16, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    One doesn’t "expect" gifts at all, whatever kind of wedding is planned. And no registry information is included with the invitation. The idea of a wedding is to have family and friends witnesses the couple’s vows that they take at the ceremony, and to celebrate with them at the reception later.
    In your circumstance, either idea is fine.

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