Is this wrong what he did..?? & what should i do?

A few days ago my bf wanted to come over to swim with me at the swimming pool at my house.. I told him it would be a good idea and i will ask my parents if he could come over or not. so I called my parents and told them if i could go swimming with my bf at the swimming pool and they said it was okay. so the next morning i woke up and called my bf and told him to meet me at the swimming pool an he did.. but for some reason he looked like he was planing something ..and he just looked different. I told him to get in the pool with me and he did for a few minutes after a few minutes he got out and told me to go with him to the spa..... so i got out and he was holding my hand but he act like he was pulling me to the (bathroom) he pulled me in the bathroom and started kissing me .. i kissed him back a little then i told him to stop then he did. after that he lock the bathroom door.. then i was thinking all kinds of stuff.. he told me to follow hi in the the Private bathroom door so i did .. he started pulling down my swim suit and putting his arms around me and telling me to shhhhh.. in my mind i was thinking about saying stop but i didn't want to be mean or have him hurt me...after that i felt him .... going in me... i said ow a couple of times and i started crying very hard were he could here me but i remember him hitting .. harder i wanted to say stop or push him off of me put the pain was too hurtful so i just let him do it.... should i tell my parents? will he get in trouble? will i get in trouble?.... plus i told him don't make me pregnant and he said it was a 50 / 50 chance. by the way we are both 16 and he has ADHD.


Comments

  1. emzy08 says:

    um. it’s called rape. even though u didn’t say no he didn’t have consent. tell your parents! that’s really awful

  2. magnum man says:

    rotflmfao u were raped by your bf you should just put out more and it wont happen again

  3. Sarah A says:

    It sounds like you were raped. :( I’m sorry and you should tell your parents and yes he will get in trouble. You wont get in trouble, just tell your parents the truth. You are the victim here, not him.

  4. Pbiggs says:

    this is called rape, and you should have went to the hospital immediately, not to mention your parents should have been the first ones to know this. nothing that he did was okay, and i can assure you that by doing this, he doesn’t care about you. he only cares about himself. tell your parents immediately, you won’t get in trouble, i promise, and no matter what happens you shouldn’t let him get away with this. think about the next girl it could happen to. regardless of the fact he has "ADHD" (this is a really vague disorder that i personally don’t even believe in) he definately knows better. get help, now.

  5. Smiley says:

    uhh you need to tell someone…it sounds to me like he forced you into doing it. And he could get into some serious trouble and your only 16 and i know your not planning on having a baby so my answer is to tell someone as soon as you can, it he really loved you he wouldnt of done that! sorry:(

  6. ghostsnake says:

    tell your parents you’ll feel better they will never desert you

  7. x0x0addictedx0x0 says:

    yes tell your parents now. thats not good!

  8. Ms. Kari <3 says:

    What did he was not right. But honestly, you’re the dumb one for not saying anything! You just stood or whatever, there letting him do you! You should of said something. And 50/50 chance you’ll get pregnant! Get the hell out of here! Once you do it and no condom is used, there’s a big chance of you getting pregnant. I just think you’re stupid for not saying anything, if you didn’t want anything to happen in the first place! If i was you, I would get a test and see if you’re pregnant or not.

  9. Jen_Slytherin4Life<3. says:

    1) You should tell one of your best friends. If you dont feel comfortable wth it, then…keep it to yourself.

    2) Get a pregancy test. If your not pregant, then..well thats good =P , if you are. Get an abortion, if its gonna be too complicated.
    I think you have to get it when your like 10- 21 weeks pregant, something like that im not too sure, im sure you can find the details.

    3) I’d try ignoring him for a few days, and possibly even considering dumping him ,but im not the one dating him, and i dont know your feelings towards him , so yeaah. If you decide to dump him, and he wants to come over and talk to you, what i would do is invite a friend or something over, to help you calm down, and deal with him.

  10. Wild Honey says:

    uhh….what he did was wrong. you should have pushed him off. he should have stopped once you started crying. talk to him and ask him if he ejaculated..because if he did…you are in trouble. you are both at fault and i think you should talk to your mom. he disrespected and hurt you, and he lost your trust. the worst thing that can happen is that you will no longer have a relationship with him. and you have no witnesses so you can say whatever you want in court.

  11. mimi says:

    Honey, tell your parents what happened. This is not okay. If you told him to stop and it was unwanted that is considered rape. Do not put this on the back burner. the fact that he has had sex with you once means that he will want to do it again. make sure that you check for pregnancy especially if he did not use a condom. And consider breaking up with him, a man that does not respect you is not a man at all.

  12. ~!caramel apple cutie!~ says:

    you should tell your parents don’t take any chances. and you might get HIV’s or STD’s.

  13. Allecat says:

    Wtf?! He just raped you…having ADHD is no excuse. Go tell your parents immediately, have them take you to the doctor to get checked out. And yes, if your parents decide to tell the cops, he WILL get in trouble, possible jail time.

    YOU won’t get in trouble. Please please go tell your parents.

  14. Helena says:

    Wow…First of all I think he’s a total b**** for doing what he did. I know he’s your boyfriend and all…but REAL boyfriends should respect what you wan’t to do and not just what they want to do. It also kind of sounds like rape… Think about it… If it really bothers you, tell someone.

  15. Deepu says:

    You should have stopped him doing this

  16. iSlade says:

    Uhm I think he raped you. You should tell someone, even if you feel like he will get in trouble. Trust me, you aren’t going to marry this guy so you might as well end it now or else you will get raped again and have a chance of getting pregnany. I’m really sorry that happened to you. And I don’t think you would get in trouble.Yes tell your parents. Good luck

  17. marissayo! says:

    even though you didnt say no, or stop which i believe you should have, you never gave him consent, its technically rape, but if you plan on ever going to court theirs no use because they wouldnt call it rape.
    i would. people do make mistakes; everyone sins.But in your heart can you forgive him? live with it? live with the thought of him taking your virginity without even discussing it before his actions or asked how you felt? Just think about that,

    P.S.
    please do not think of abortion of you are pregnant.
    could you accept the fact of killing what will form a baby?
    can you live with yourself if you got one?
    "a person is a person no matter how small"-DR. SUESS

    Pro life!!

  18. Dancebby says:

    you need to tell someone, and go to a clinic or something.
    that basically was rape. && he will get in trouble but he should, what he did was so wrong.
    did you talk to him about?
    ask him what he was thinking.
    that is sow wrong. and to mention he didn’t wear a condom, you could be in serious trouble.

  19. calvin and Hobbes says:

    well it was kind of wrong what he did, and you should have said something. you really did take a big chance without wearing protection. you made it seem like it was ok with what he was doing by not saying anything.it hurt because it was your first time.if you tell your parents their gonna be really mad. but if he ever wants to do it again and you don’t want to then speak up

  20. i_stoll_a_dollar says:

    uh……………………………………………………………………….. holy crap thats probably rape. ADHD? did you mean hiv? ADHD is not a sex related disease. hmm well if you dont like the guy tell your parents. but if he makes you pregnant make sure that hoe stays to see the baby damn it! then make him pay child support lol( you dont have to) anyway do what you think is right. if i got a girl pregnant i would be by her side the whole time.

  21. Stefanie says:

    well gurl.
    this is rape.
    id leave him, he deserves it.
    he should respect youu, all of that stuff he did? totally not respect.
    you deserve way better.
    tell your parents what happened, even if you get into trouble. you need to be honest, because what if you do get pregnant?

    dont tell anyone else what happened. only let this problem involve you, his parents, your parents and him.
    otherwise the situation will get around.

    im sorry for what happened.
    follow what your instincts were telling you, you noticed he was planning something, and you noticed he was acting strange.
    you should have acted then.
    but thats just my advice, good luck hun (:

  22. Breann says:

    okay. so……
    if you never said stop, then technically that’s not wrong. BUT! if you didn’t like it, you should have just said no! if it would’ve made him mad, then you know he isn’t a good boyfriend. a good boyfriend should listen to you. and your limits.

    did you say he was hitting you???? i didn’t understand it right there. but if he was, then brake up with him! do not let someone hit you like that!!!

    im sorry that happened. you should really someone though. whether it’s your parents, siblings, best friend. just tell someone, so that they can help you get through it.

  23. DK says:

    u need to dump his ass… thats horrible what he did to u… if u tell on him though, he could go to jail; and i dont think u wish that upon him, cause in his mind he may have thought u wanted it… u should however stay away from this creep, and tell him off… and if he does anything like this again, tell ur parents, tell his parents, tell teachers, tell cops, until he gets what he deserves

  24. beau93 says:

    if your upset about it tell your parents that is rape…

    but also if you reli didnt want to do that you can say no any boy that respects his gf will stop at once dont be scared unless there is real reason to be you bf shouldnt hurt you if you think in anyway he would he isnt right and just get rid of him

    dont let it happen again and yes i would tell your parents and get rid of that particular bf

    you saying that it hurt n stuff sounds to me like your a vergin … you shouldnt have let him do that untill you were realy ready to do so. get rid of him would be my advice and tell your parents if its all bothering you…

    and btw it makes me angry that he would tell you there is a 50/50 chance of u getting pregnant… it is possible to get preg even if the boy doesnt ejaculate (cum) inside you with someting called precum with can get u preg always us contraceptives of any kinda its always better that nothing best one is the condom thou cos if he had any STD’s or STI’s then there is a good chance you now have them and that isnt good…

    again tell ur parents u may need to get checked out sorry about the bad news x :/

  25. Ms Manson says:

    hi, yes it was very wrong what your boyfriend did, and you are also wrong for not telling him stop when u had the chance to, he took fully advantage of you, and theres nothing you can do now to go back and stop it, but what you can do is prevent it from happening again. you was being selfish with yourself by worrying about his feelings, pleasure and self being without worrying about yours first, seems to me like your boyfriend had all this planned and he knew you was weak enough to let him , now u have to be strong en ought to tell somebody, and your parents might be the perfect solution. He might not get into any big trouble because you didn’t say no at the moment but there will be consequences, and it would still be count as rape even thought his your boyfriend. but please tell your parents think about other females he could be hurting for you not speaking.
    good luck
    and don’t blame yourself now, just learn from it.

  26. Ben A says:

    it is not rape because she didn’t tell him to stop. and i believe you said you wanted to say stop if you get the cops involved and you tell them you wanted to they are going to say did you tell him to stop and you say no i wanted to they may think you wanted to have sex with him and he wont get introuble all because you didn’t say stop.

  27. Erica says:

    please tell your parents immeddiately!
    i hope your allright thoguh!

  28. Waterboy says:

    yah thats weird. id dump him. and buy a pregnancy tester. if you are, then your screwed.

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