I have a bachelorette party invite question?

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I am sending out party invites this week. I need the money back soon to reserve a limo and pay for a small portion of party expenses. I have known many other Maids of honor that have had a bad experience with reserving a limo and collecting money upfront only in the end to bite the bullet and pay for it themselves. There is no way possible that I can afford that by myself. In the invites, I have included a form on different options the ladies can choose from ranging in costs from: Free (Just the cocktail party) Limo/ Bar option: a person (includes bar cover) and The bar/limo/spa morning after option the next per person.
regardless of if they go opt to do the spa day, I included that they are all welcome to stay the night. Heres where Iam wincing a little.........In order for me to reserve a limo I need the money i am asking for the money to be returned in a little more than two weeks....how would you feel if you received this? I feel awful but it's my only option



Comments

  1. Violet Pearl says:
    September 29, 2009 at 5:03 am

    Wow– I’ve never seen anything like that, with the payment options. I think you need to scale back and just offer what you can afford to pay for- a cocktail party.

  2. Lexi says:
    September 29, 2009 at 5:03 am

    I would be okay with it. I mean, two weeks is a little quick to get you the money. Is there someone you could borrow the money from until these other girls pay you back? Mom, friend, etc?

  3. Mochabean says:
    September 29, 2009 at 5:03 am

    I think you should call everyone after the invite arrives and tell them how you feel. Then you should ask politely if you can meet and pick up the money asap. Everyone is in a tight spot in this recession, I think you are perfectly okay to ask to get the money asap. If they are good friends of the bride they will understand and will get you the money asap! If they get offended, they wouldnt be any fun anyway!

  4. Chiky says:
    September 29, 2009 at 5:03 am

    Ok, the only problem is what happens if only 2 or 3 people opt to do the limo, or limo and spa? Then you still might come up short for the total cost of the limo! I totally understand your situation, but I would contemplate calling people and letting people know politely that this party is original and is going to be a ton of fun! And just ask them which way they are leaning so that if you have to make any adjustments in plans, you can do so without having to wait for people to send checks.

    There are 3 options so some people would have to make a choice and they may not be able to participate in the next day’s activities, but they will have to make a descision and send the money within 2 weeks so you could reserve the limo etc? It’s just difficult to ask for money for participation but also to put a time limit on it. But making people pay up front insures that they will probably show up and you won’t get stuck with the bill!

    Good luck!

  5. Luna says:
    September 29, 2009 at 5:03 am

    hmmm… you could end up with the limo/bar/spa all costing more if it turns out only a few people want it and then instead of 55 it’s say 100… i would talk to the bridal party adn close friends that are definately going and find out waht your all willing to pay for and do… maybe you need less options… jsut a cocktail party or just a limo ride and bar or something…. it’s going to add up to a lot…

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