How do you ask bachelorette guests for some money up front?


We are going to be reserving a spa for all of us. And so how would i go about trying to round up the funds from all the people for this? It is planned far enough in advance that they could easily come up with their share of the fees. How would i word it? or would i need to cover the costs and have them reimburse me later? or what?
oh by the way, i am the MOH, not the bride. and the bridesmaids have agreed to have the spa treatment. But we have more than just bridesmaids attending the party. About 10-15, the bride hasnt decided exactly from the list.
and all will be friends that all of us have known for at least a year.
the wedding is in late april. which is why i said it is plenty of time to come up with the money.



Comments

  1. Elizabeth says:

    Do you have to pay for the services in advance? If not, then just issue the invitations with the options for services and the prices. Then that will let the attendees know that they are responsible for their own costs, and that they can attend or not based on their ability or desire to pay.

    If you have to pay for everything in advance, then you should pay up and make sure everyone knows to bring cash to reimburse you.

  2. rxing says:

    just be upfront , make sure you have all the details. Also make sure you dont go too crazy with pricing because some people cant afford to spend too much.

  3. wife & mommy says:

    did YOU choose the spa or did all of you choose the spa? if it was just you then its your responsibility to foot the bill not theirs. Just ask them if they want to go to the spa and if they do tell them its a little more expensive than just throwing a bridal shower………leave it up to them

  4. Twisted Robo Bug says:

    I am torn on this. One part of me feels like it is tacky to ask people to pay for a party you’re having for yourself, but another part of me thinks you should just come clean and tell them you’re not rich and that you need help with paying for their spot. Let them know that they can pay the place themselves so they know they will have a spot reserved.

    I don’t know, ask your parents, or your best friend.

    I never had a bachelorette party but I will be having a divorce party Friday night! Yippee!

  5. theamfunk says:

    I threw my sister a bachelorette party last year – we got a party bus and that was a small fortune! There was no way I could do this on my own, so on the invitation I stated that there would be a cover charge to get on the bus and what it was for. Everyone was fine with the charge and some even gave me more than I had asked for. I think most people expect to help out, and if you feel back about asking the guests, the bride’s maids should pitch in more!

  6. Julie C says:

    Who is "we?" If you’re all together, you talk it amoungst yourselves as to who pays what part. If the bachelorettes are guests, it would be very rude to ask them to pay. But if you’re a bunch of friends, then split the cost evenly.

  7. Jess says:

    I held a bachelorette party once and everyone agreed upfront to pay $15 (I checked with people beforehand to see if this was a reasonable amount or if we should do something that cost less so the bridesmaids could foot the bill- everyone wanted to do what we had planned and agreed to pay the $15). HOWEVER, on the night 5 people did not put in any money and being the maid of honour I had to cover the extra $75 for these people. I couldn’t really ask them to reimburse me as they were not my friends (they were friends of the bride who I’d met maybe once or twice). I therefore think in the future I would either choose to do something less expensive so the bridesmaids could split the cost, or get them to pay beforehand or as soon as they arrive.

  8. lunchbox says:

    Why don’t you just have everyone pay for their services individually at the spa? Do you need the money upfront?

    Or you can say on the invitation "Please bring $X to the spa to participate"

    Asking for money is never fun.

  9. babydoll_tjh says:

    I’d send out invites for the bachelorette party stating what was planned and how much it will cost each attendee. When they RSVP, they send their cash. If they don’t RSVP–they don’t go. Make sure the rsvp date is in plenty of time for them to round up the cash. If someone says they’ll go, but don’t pay right away, call them and tell them that you have to have the final count/payment for the reservation to the spa by (this date) and if they don’t have the money to you, they won’t be included.

  10. Sunny says:

    send out invitations and write right on them how much it will cost per person

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